Contributed by "L" in Washington
When I first met him, he was very attentive, and always called
when he said he would. After a while we moved in together and
that is when it all changed.
Living together means you have to pay bills together. For some
reason, he challenged me each time a bill came up, and tried to
get out of it. For one of his reasons, He constantly complained
that his job was soooo much better than mine, and that he makes
more, and that he works so much harder than me (I never once
tried to "compete" with him regarding our jobs)... He got fired
from his job for disobeying direct orders and tried to blame it
on them. He was always quick to blame anyone and anything but
himself. He always bragged how he worked so hard but later when
I talked to his co-workers, they said he was the most lazy and
manipulative person they'd ever worked with.
Almost on a daily basis, I was accused that I was cheating on
him and talking to "so many other guys" when this was far from
the truth. When I saw his mail on his myspace account he talked
to about ten girls on a regular basis and called at least five
of them all the time! I didn't get it. Sorry for me but I shut
down and hardly talked to any of my real friends. He told me I
was a disgusting slut because I was in the military for 7 years
(honorably discharged) and said that "all military girls are
total sluts." He even went as far as to delete numbers from my
phone of many of my male contacts and deleted people when he
hacked into my email/myspace.
He took it upon himself to track every webpage I visited and
even downloaded a program to get the passwords to everything I
had a password to and checked that all the time before I deleted
it from my computer.
He was violent with me. He used to scream in my face about how I was a slut
because a guy emailed me and told me in the end of his letter "talk to you later
beautiful". He told me I was a liar but I felt like I was constantly walking on
eggshells because no matter WHAT I DID HE WOULD TWIST IT INTO SOMETHING CRAZY!!
I'd want to go get some groceries (which I always purchased, and always cooked
for him) and he'd say "Who are you gonna have sex with?" and call my phone while
I was gone demanding to know what I was doing. I never once cheated on him or
even wanted to cheat on him. I was blind, stupid and in love.
To top it all off, he totalled my beautiful car that I had paid off for over a
year and spent time, money and lots of TLC on. He was stupid and turned left in
front of someone who was going straight. I was furious but got an insurance
settlement and for some reason he wanted me to give him a big chunk of it,
saying that he deserves some of the money because he was driving... HOW STUPID!
I never gave him a DIME! When I got a new car, he told me that it was stupid and
how I looked stupid in it. He never had a nice word to say.
He was violent with me as well. He liked to hold me down against my will and
scream in my ear. He liked to pick me up and shove me against a wall and drop me
to the floor for things like getting a text message from a friend across the
country. He destroyed a wall and a door in our apartment after we broke up the
first time and hacked into my messenger and read a few messages I exchanged with
an old friend. The police came that night and now he is living with his mommy
rent free and bill free and there is a no contact order issued.
If I have to, I will testify against him in court. I can't believe I let myself
be treated so bad for so long and just tried to think "oh it will get better."
Because of him, my credit is ruined, my car was totalled, my psyche is totally
messed up and who knows if I will ever love someone.
He's the biggest manipulator, liar and evil person on the planet.